Thursday, January 22, 2009
While most the clients I worked with in Florida were men, I did counsel couples and women. I was surprised how many women would schedule an appointment with me -- about 25% of my clients. Some were there because their husband or boyfriend was overly concerned about the size of their penis and it was affecting their love life. The women really didn't care and in some cases felt their lover's penis wasn't small at all.
I also had some female clients who were concerned with the size of their lover's penis. In most cases, their desires were superficial. Just as some men feel their penis should at least be a certain size, a few women feel their lovers should measure up to an arbitrary standard. This standard is usually based on past sexual experience or the viewing of too many pornographic images. One trick I used is to compare their lover's penis with other penises (small and average). In my office, I always kept modeling clay. I would have the woman recreate her lover's penis -- focusing mostly on the length and girth and less on appearance, though some were true artists -- then I would have them compare their lover's penis with other models I had in my office. Most times, we would discover their lover's penis was quite average. There were a few small ones, but once they saw that there were other men as small or smaller, a light seemed to click. Again, their desires were superficial and once they got over the mental block that something was wrong with their lover, they were able to accept them as they were.
So, couples and women who have dealt with this issue, your comments are welcome as well.