Sunday, January 25, 2009

Cuckold


Some men who possess a small penis have cuckold fantasies, though most, in reality, only pursue this fantasy online -- never sharing their desires with their wife or lover. There are a few who actually live this lifestyle, but it is not one I recommend unless you and your lover have a strong relationship. Many relationships have dissolved because of the introduction of one or more lovers into the bedroom. It takes a special couple to successfully live the cuckold lifestyle where both achieve some measure of pleasure and still keep their love for one another alive.

I would like to put the question to you. Do any of you have cuckold fantasies? If so, why? What do you think is the root cause for this desire?

41 comments:

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  2. I do have and have acted them out. It stems from childhood, some of the first experiences were MFM, but I like her to get her pleasure....it really has nothing to do with seize.....

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  3. Yes, i have many cuckold desires and fantasies. Some of it stems from having a small cock (4 inches in length and thin). But most of it stems from how i love to serve sensually powerful Women - and to be loved for the fact i worship their power. i love to spoil, serve and be humiliated - all to enhance their power and beauty. To be have a woman i love and who loves me, envelope me in the sweet humiliation of being a cuckold - for her to take my manhood away from me, to give it back to me as she sees fit...that is what i long for more than anything else.

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  4. We are both turned on by Michael's smaller size relative to those we choose to play with.

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  5. I am a straight heterosexual male and definitely have cuckold fantasies, involving my wife, my wife's friends, and strangers. Depending on the scene, I want to be the cuckold or the bull, and also have fantasies about M-F-M play, gangbangs, group sex, and more. I love watching porn with those themes, and find some of the inter-racial porn to be extremely hot....

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  6. I guess I'm out of touch..what is Cockold? I can see it involves multiple partners, but is there something else to it?

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  7. i have desires to share my wife. im small and want to see her happy sexually. i do not want to loose her. but isnt it better to have an open marriage then a marriage of kies

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  8. Great comments...Mickey, the old definition of a cuckold was a man whose wife was regularly having sex with another man behind his back (often conceiving children). Over time, cuckoldry evolved into the wife having an affair with her husband's full knowledge. This humiliation grew into full fledged orgasm/sex denial for her cuckolded husband while the wife had sex with a bull who was better or more endowed than him. Some men prefer to just watch their wives have sex with other men and this, too, is considered cuckoldry.

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  9. Well then...cockolding sounds a little too extreme for me. I still like to be the main sexual participant in my relationship. But I have had fantasies of my wife with another man...I just don't think I ever thought about it in terms of size/performance, but maybe I did. Thanks for explaining. Love reading the comments and look forward to the next session.

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  10. My wife is currently seeing two men, yet to fuck them yet but she will. One is a boyfriend, the other a very much older wealthy man who i am sure will become her benefactor. I crave being cuckolded not only for the way it make our sex life hot BUT more so because as her slave husband Her cucking me is the ultimate act of power. My journey is at http://www.wifeworshipper.blogspot.com

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  11. Kathy, if you read my blog you will see a variety of interests, but the interest in this journey is complex and, as I see from the above comments, varies for each of us. I have had a tease & denial fantasy for years, stumbled into the chastity play that fits into that realm, and then further into the 'hot wife' or cuckold arena. I think my ultimate interest here is a very strong intimate relationship, which currently I do not share. Without going into a history of background to really analyze this desire, I do fantasize of a faithful relationship to a lover, yet allowing her the freedom of an occasional tryst, as long as she is entirely open in sharing that experience with me, and the occasional opportunity to enjoy and encourage her pleasure first hand.

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  12. Wierdly enough I'm pretty well endowed (just over 7 inches) but I still have fantasies about being under-endowed and married to an unfaithful wife. One of my favourite daydreams is having my wife play with me and tease me about my size while telling me all about her latest encounter. I have no idea where these fantasies might come from!

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  13. Grey Owl, very intriguing...Your fantasies do border on cuckoldry, but as you said, it is your own particular journey. I suppose if each of us had the same taste, there would be only one flavor of ice cream, one style of pizza, and there would be few radio stations...


    Anonymous,

    Cuckoldry and humiliation are not uncommon fantasies for men who possess average or above average endowments. In some, it relates back to some for of humiliation. You'll have to search your memory to see if you uncover the origin of your desires.

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  14. Weird. I have some simialr fantasies, but I think what turns me on about it is the idea of the girl being so incredibly horny she can't refuse sex.

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  15. I have had cuckold fantasies most of my life because of my incredibly teeny, tiny penis. I like to say that I was born without a penis; instead, I have a nubbin of flesh not much bigger than a genetic girl's engorged clit. I was so obsessed with cuckold fantasies that I persuaded, cajoled and manipulated my sweet, innocent, Catholic School-girl virgin First Wife into desiring sex with other men. Eventually, she feminized and sissified me so that she felt comfortable having sex with other men, especially Black Men with very large penises.

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  16. I think that women sucking small cocks (small enough to fit inside their mouth without deepthroating) ane incrdibly sexy. Does anyone know of any good sites for amateur movies of this?

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  17. I often fantasise about my wife being fucked by other men. I particularly like to imagine slipping my small penis into her vagina after it has expanded to accomodate a much larger cock and been filled with cum. I have shared this fantasy with my wife and unfortunately (appart from saying once that she would like mine to be a bit thicker) she is not keen on the idea of fucking othet men. I do emphasise the small size of my cock to try to encourage her to think about what a larger one might feel like. Do you think it is a good idea to pursue this?

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  18. i did poopy in pants

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  19. I have a large penis but perform poorly in bed. Lack of stamina and penis rigidity (gets big but hangs and is floppy) has caused my wife to become frustrated. My inability to perform intercourse satisfactorily for her led us to finding her other large men who could perform in bed and give her intercourse orgasms.
    She occasionally humiliates my sexual inferiority, but there is no dressing up or other extreme fetishes, we both enjoy her cuckolding me with large and harder penises that can control their ejaculations and give her multiple orgasms.
    Oddly I have small testicles to go along with my large, floppy penis and I dont not make much sperm, so there is a little teasing play involving other mens large testicles and their larger amounts of semen.

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  20. Hi, I'm a single guy that use to have a craving to share x wife, later x fiance. I'm not "large". To me it was not about size, humiliation, etc but a higher level of loving, wanting to see the other pleased out of love, with rules both agree on.
    I would stil enjoy that kind of relationship but don't know how to define it. or if anybody else has the same desires ultimaely.
    It is nice to be accepted, appreciated for something other than a large penis.
    thanks. mysihba@ yahoo or IM same

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  21. Definitely! Why do I have these fantasies? Probably because I possess a small penis - 4 1/2 inches. I often fantasize about secretely watching my wife with a large, well endowed man.

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  22. We met when we were both with other people and had a torrid affair and eventually left our repsective partners and have been together for 25 years. It was easy to accept her with others as we had started this way together. Six year and one child into our relationship the sex had changed dramatically. It was clear then that she enjoyed the company of men and liked going out dancing and having fun - something accomodated by our business life. We were married after six years and I was first offically cuck'd at he bachelorette party where a dozen of her closets friends got to watch her get fucked by the dancer - I had urged her best friend to find a dancer who was big and who would take the two of them all night. The party was at our house so she was taken several times in our bed. My wife was so proud to have me come home in the morning (her friends a giggled when I had come in - she had told them I was too small for her sometime during the evening) and show me all of the used condoms in the bed. She tuanted me, and showed me her cunt. She pushed my face to her red, swollen and sore cunt and had me lick her until she came. This with her best friend there and watching. She let me have her from behind after she came - she said she was sore so I had to hurry. she was so big and wet - I knew then I would always want her this way.

    In the months afterwards I told her how much I loved it, she would acknowledge it but finally told me that yes she would have other men but that she would have them when she wanted and I would not be told. and so we went along for another 15 years, she could cum with my tongue and a large dildo but never with my 5 inch cock. Intercourse slowed to a couple times a month.

    We role played, we did dress up, she finally dressed me up as a girl. One afternoon after she had come with my tongue and her big dildo and then several times with her vibrator and big dildo then allowing me to cum in her, I asked if I could lick her and clean her. She had had several orgasms and was intially not interested but after a few minutes spread herself and said "clean me" I literally dove in imediately and became extremely excited and hard. She asked "is that what you wanted?", "does that taste good?", "do you wish that was someone elses sperm?" and she came extremely hard. She let me put my very hard disck into her again and asked :is my big wet cunt going to make your little dick cum?" and I did.

    It was aother year before she finally told me that my little dick had never gotten her wet; She loved my fingers and my mouth and she loved cock and loved being fucked but my little dick was just not exciting. I was happier than I had been in 15 years. Finally we could discuss the declining amount of intercourse, her needs from me and eventually her on-going interest in other men.

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  23. So now I am a happy sissy husband. I am in panties all of the time. She will have my little dick once or twice a month. Her dating is now part of our life. The first in our ne life was a guy we both knew who refused to sleep with her because of me and she made me ask him to sleep with her. She still sees him a couple of times a month.

    Most of the time we have sex it is part of a ritual where I service her for several hours. A long bath, a long massage - usually about 30 miutes into to a rub down she will tell me she is ready for cock and I will rub her clit and insert a dildo before returning to the rubdown. When the rub down is finished her clit is licked to her first orgasm. Her dildo is replaced with a much larger one and fingers and vibrator are used for several more orgasms. Several years ago she was quite excited having had a first orgasm in the jacuzzi tub before her rub down. She laid down and said over her shoulder - " I think we both need some cock" and I was introduced to cock becoming part of my orgasm. She instructed which dildo she was to have and which I was to have. When she was finished she allowed my little dick in her and came to know that if she wanted my cock as big and hard as it would get for her, that I should have cock to get ready for her. Soon she knew that when she had enough, when my tongue and her dildo had satisfied her that she could refuse my little dick and I would very happily cum with cock.

    At first she would lie in bed and spread her well used cunt while I bounced up and down on her dildo and rubbed my little cock until I came. Soon though she would get up after she was finished and tell me she was going to the kitchen and she wanted my to finish my little dick before she got back. She would tease and laugh - she finally loved having a sissy husband.

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  24. I have a small penis. I was married to a good woman. I urged her to have sex with other men. Long story short, she left me. Not for another man. She left me because I wasn't happy with myself. She moved out and we divorced. She didn't date for about a year and then met someone. My penis is still small. And I'm single. Huh.

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  25. I also fantasize about being a cuckold. My fantasies put me in the place of my beautiful girlfriend when getting F*cked hard by a well-endowed black man.

    I fantasize about being her, recieving that massive c*ck, being taken advantage of by a real man that shows no mercy to women when it comes to sex.

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  26. I have a small penis and small balls and suffer from premature ejaculation,my wife use's dildos to satisfy her,she makes me sit and watch her have multiple orgasms I come just watching her,she laughs, some times she makes me try and enter her but I always come before getting it in she just laughs.She calls me a come quick jaffa as aim also infertile.

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  27. Very interesting blog. Is this becoming a wave of the future, cuckolding. It seems to me to be the case. Women are becoming more powerful in society and asserting. I,am all for women to explore their sexuality with the support of their husbands. I,am on the small side and I feel that my wife has miss out not having the pleasure of enjoying a large one.............

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  28. i like being cuckolded by white women who allow me to watch them in action with hung big black men. i like being degraded dominated by the white female and told i'm just a inferior submissive white man who does not compare to the mighty hung superior black man

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  30. The rise of cuckoldry seems to have links to feminism. (my opinion) Being 5'4" 132lbs., fair skin, former Marine Sgt, with Napoleon complex, and a shaved little boner, there is obviously some confusion. Truth is, I just want to belong. I think that I made the conclusion when I was young that no one would want a little pale "boy" when they could have a tall dark handsome man to protect them. I don't like being alone. I am not real outgoing in terms of dating. So, I fantasize about being part of a relationship that allows me to service people and in that way make them love or at like having me around for truly selfish reasons ie. they like getting head. I really get a stiffy being on my knees. Little boner bobbing around between my thin pale thighs, as I suck in a very docile way at the excited genitals of my master.

    There will be men like me, and we need to decide if life should be a charade, or a party. I like the party. Dress me up. Teach me to be a good boy. Help me to learn. The charade of trying to prove what a big man I am, is exhausting. I simply want to nurse at a cock, or clitoris, bringing joy to the world in my own little way.

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  31. I really need some help. I'm with a guy who I love dearly. To me he is NOT under endowed. I'm not sure how big he is but it's got to be around 6 inches, and it's not thin either. I don't think he's small, but he does. He's talked a lot about how he has a small cock and how that's fine and gets upset when I tell him I don't think it's small and when I tell him I'm very very pleasured by it. He's around 30 and I'm 21. I've noticed he seems to have some underlying control issues, liking to have some kind of control over everything around him. He won't try and think about why he feels this way. We haven't been together for over a year, but there was a time he felt very depressed and we had sex about twice or three times a month. He never pleasured me but loved getting head. He's told me it turns him on to think about me with another guy. He wants to see me fucked by another guy while he watches. Also said he wants to watch me be on webcam with another guy, or is fine with me doing another guy with him not there and telling him about it. He's also always been very paranoid about me cheating on him. Hes said that by being ok with it then I would tell him about it instead of hiding it. and when I use sex toys talks about how I like them 'big' which I don't always. I don't want to have sex with other guys and I want my guy to feel confident in himself and his size. I love his cock. What can I do to help him love his? Will he ever get over this desire? I told him I'd be with girls, just not comfortable being with guys. WHY does he feel this way? Control, feeling bad about himself, what he thinks is a small cock. I'm so confused.

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  32. I have a small slender penis even by your standards, 4 3/4 inches in length and 3 3/4 inches in girth.
    I want to thank you for posting all of those sexy pictures of men with small penises.
    I am in a cuckold relationship with my wife who had two children with another man (who also had a small penis) and I practically flop around in her cunt.
    She feels very fortunate that I am not jealous and am aroused by her taking big cocks which turn her into a complete slut.
    As much as I like this activity, I get just as turned on by sucking, playing and being fucked by small boyish penises like my own.
    I think one of the reasons I have a fetish for guys with small penises is I grew up frequently playing with other boys who of course had small penises like myself.
    What do you think.

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  33. AT 36 WITH A 3.5" PENIS I JUST FEEL LIKE IM SELFISH TO DEPRIVE MY WIFE FROM A GREAT ROMPING AND THAT MY PLACE IS IN A CHASTITY CAGE.

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  34. I have a very small penis, about 4 inches long and 4 inches round. All my friends have much bigger penises and know mine is small but as far as I know have never hit on my wife. Our friends wives also know I have only got a small one and make remarks which they all laugh about including my wife.I could not tell if my wife has been with a bigger man as I do not touch the sides anyway. I would like to talk to her about being cuckolded by men with bigger penises but am afraid to broach the subject with her.

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  35. yes i have total cuckold fantasy because of my small inadeqate cock size andmy cock size envy andjealousy of men with big hung cocks!

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  36. I was a cuckold and our marriage survived. However the cuckolding ended due to her loss of sexual desire. We have no sex at all now. I simply masturbate to my memories and other cuckold fantasies.

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  37. my husband has member like the one in the pic above and drills me incessantly about living a cuckold life. I'm not ok with this. It's become almost abusive. how do
    I boost his confidence enough that he lets this go? I've had big penises, and the attitude that goes with them is not my bag. his suits me fine.

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  38. I'm going to assume you have already tried to have a full discussion with him, so I suggest a completely different take.

    Part of being a cuckold isn't just watching one's wife make love to a more endowed lover (which is not what you're are into), but being submissive to one's wife. You should assume the role of the Domme for a short while (not forever). This may be the only way to make him truly listen to what you have to say.

    I have a few scenarios you can use, but they are rather long and I will make a post if you like. Basically, you need to assume control over your sex life with your husband.

    First, be completely honest. If his penis is truly like the one in the photo above, he has a small erect penis. You need to tell him that -- he needs to hear you say it. If you say anything else like "yours is average" or "it doesn't matter", he'll know it's a cop out and he won't really hear you. This is contrary to what a lot of my colleagues say, but I focus on small penis therapy and over countless interviews with men just like your husband, I've learned a little about what makes them tick. By acknowledging his shortcomings, he'll become intensely attuned to what you have to say.

    Then you need to show him why his penis works for you. You need to initiate sex and you need to emphasize intercourse. Show him that you need his penis inside you.

    There's a lot more to this, of course. You also need to make him truly imagine the hypothetical lover he wants you to take on. Who is this man? Can he be trusted? What about STDs? How would your husband feel if your children or other relatives found out about his lifestyle? How uncomfortable would it be to invite another man into your bedroom?

    You might suggest, if your are open to this, making it more of a bedroom fantasy...having an imaginary lover so to speak. Some couples take it farther by using dildos and vibrators as stand-ins for their lovers. You might also tell him intimate details about lovers past...

    I could go on and on....And you are not alone. I have seen a number of wives over this very issue. And if he is ever going to get over it, it will take at least a year of focus and direction from you.

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  39. Dear Kathy,

    My fantasy is unusual I believe;it certainly isnt catered for in any kind of porn-even on the net,which intrigues me in itself.

    I actually have a very large penis,but am sexually passive(something Im afraid most women hate,despite all their P.C.talk!)sometimes have erection issues,generally have no sexual confidence as a man(male role) and am all in all fairly hopeless in bed!(see my other post discussing this).

    But anyway,my fantasy fetish is actually to be cuckolded by a man with a much SMALLER penis!.In this scenario he is very virile,sexually confident and has a rock hard erection,unlike me!.Often he is also smaller-or at least shorter -than me too(I am also very tall),again adding to the sense of paradox and irony which I find so arousing.Frequently there is a transgender elemen;,i.e.transvestite fetishism,or partial autogynephilic(Im dressed in sexy womwns clothes or have breasts in other words)

    The woman involved is really hot and curvy-and of course loves small dicked men;a bit like you actually Kathy(ok-I dont really know what your like-I guess Im projecting a bit here!)

    Ive never actually lived the fantasy properly,although I have lost most of my girlfriends through being bad in bed-at least that was part of it-and most have found other men while seeing me-there was also some element of humiliation,but not always guilt free and healthy(is there healthy humiliation?).

    This paraphilea probably doesnt even have a name,and must be rare,as I say.

    Hope to hear your views on it Kathy.

    Regards,

    R.

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  40. I have cuckold fantasies. I tried to convince my wife to give it a try, but she assured me that she wants no part of the lifestyle. Fortunately, I let the idea of making it a reality go as I truly love her and desire to stay married to her.

    The reason I have these fantasies is multifold. 1. I, like many, have a small penis (4.5" erect). 2. I have never given my wife an orgasm - not even orally. 3. I enjoy being humiliated for my penis size and lack of sexual prowess.

    I am now realizing that my wife's lack of orgasms stems from many other things than my sexual skills and tools. It's related to stress, exhaustion among other things.

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  41. I have a tiny penis, by stretching it I may be 3in hard. I also have a bend in it and usualy cum as soon as it gets close to her vagina. I know she deserves to climax by more than me licking her so I am happy to see real men bringing er to a beautiful climax. I guess I also have a desire to be humuliated and belittled by her men and do alow them to use me as they wish even to the point of letting them use my mouth and annal hole. I always cum just from waching or pleasing the men. I do not know if I would want to change anything other than having my penis removed along with my testicals.

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