Monday, February 16, 2009

Humiliation


Of all the men who have small penises, there are three basic types:

1. Those who are ashamed of their penis and utterly paralyzed by the thought of being called out by a lover.

2. Those who are ashamed of their penis, but are aroused by humiliation of their lack of endowment.

3. Those who are not ashamed of their penis and never will be.


Number one and three are understandable, but number two is a little odd. It is a common need and theme in online adult sites -- look at all the cuckold and submissive male sites on the Internet. There is a desire for submissiveness in some men and some women that manifests itself in different ways. There are some men, for example, who do not possess small penises, yet they desire to be humiliated for having a pathetically small penis.

Humiliation is actually more common than most know and it is something that is not damaging as long as both participants take it for what it is -- a form of role playing by consensual adults to heighten sexual pleasure. My advice to men who desire this is to be open and honest with your lover. If this is what you want, describe in detail what you would like her to do and say (and try to explain, as best you can, why). Make it part of a larger discussion about sexual desire and fantasies. Ladies, my advice to you is to listen, try to understand your lover's wants and needs and to take a chance and play along. This kind of fantasy puts you in a very dominant position in bed -- you might find you like it!

21 comments:

  1. #2 for me Kathy. i have been seeking, with not much luck, online for a Dominant Women to humiliate me and my very small penis. I am not sure why I crave this? I am very self conscious about my lack of size and terrified to be in public with my pants down, but at the same time want a women to laugh at my little penis and make fun of me? Is this normal?? jm

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  2. As a number #2 who has come to be grateful for having a small cock, i think the turn on is that when we find a Woman who loves humiliating us for our smallness, with that comes acceptance, and the possibility of her being aroused in some way by the power She has in the relationship.

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  3. As a #3, I've yet to find a woman that did not enjoy our time together. There is always a way to please a partner...and everyway I know of is equally pleasurable for me. I'm more self conscious around men in a locker room situation than women in the bedroom. I don't think it is shame though.

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  4. i'm a #2 all the way. I'm ashamed of my small penis, but find nothing more sexually arousing than being humiliated for the very thing of which i am ashamed. Nothing is more exciting than the thought of a girl or woman laughing at and making fun of my little cock

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  5. i have started to actually admit to having a small penis to friends. It seems to take some of the edge off if I make light of it myself first. That way if they were to actually see it, they would not be surprised by the size and may actually thin it's not that small! BUt, I know it is...especially when soft!!! Did it just never grow??

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  6. Hello Kathy,

    Thanks for starting this great blog, it has been a good read so far. I was wondering if I could use the above picture in a post I am writting for my own blog. If you would prefer I don't I understand (ether way I will be linking to this great blog).

    Thanks,
    Pondering

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  7. I'm a little of #2 and #3 - minus being "ashamed". I've been a cuckold for many years. In my blog, I talk about how I think it started (the different experiences), but this is mental S&M. Pure and simple. We get off on the emasculation - much in the same way that someone into BDSM gets off on being tied up, etc.,. We're closet voyeurs iso closet exhibitionists. I've got a very small dick and I love it when she (or her lover) is dominant with me. Verbally. Making me watch. Describing, in detail, everything that's going on (or went on, past tense).

    You're absolutely right that someone like me needs to be open from the start - tell her everything. I've never had one relationship where the girl didn't think "wow.. interesting." It may have taken a year or so before we acted on it, but if you can establish trust and she knows that you love her and you respect her and that it's not some "fantasy" where you'll wake up the next morning and shower her with scorn, it can work.

    She's told a few of her girlfriends about my size (and shown photos of her lover to them). It's a bit awkward when I'm at her place and they're there, but the cuckold in me is turned on knowing that they're aware of it. As I said, it's mental.

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  8. I believe there is a #4 as well...those of us that, while erect, will pull it out and show it to anyone who wants to see it yet while soft, are a bit ashamed of the size.

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  9. Im a #2. I know my penis is small and that reality is humiliating and a turn on at the same time. After my wife and I worked through calling my penis small I told her that small penis humiliation was a real turn on for me. After a few months she was being verbal and more dominant in our relationship. She has even put a prostate massager in my anus.

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  10. Do Russian men are very rarely so small dick.

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  11. I'm a no.2. My penis is mostly very small (except for first thing in the morning) and sometimes its absolutely tiny. I don't necessarily get a kick out of humiliation from my lover, but I get a huge rush from being naked in public places with my tiny penis. There is a nude beach near where I live that has a public walkway, and I love timing walking out of the cold water with an almost non-existent penis, as women onlookers look down and often laugh. Asian tourists are particularly curious, point, stare, giggle and sometimes take photos, which I find a huge turn on. I also have been in 2 WNBRs, and riding around in front of thousands of people with a tiny penis is a rush. But I would be terrified if my friends ever saw it. I'm not sure if this is weird or not

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  12. Hi, my name is Tom.
    I am a n.2, and I have never been able to bring my wife, Elena, to orgasm with my 4-inches penis. Sometimes when we have sex (seldom) my wife gets bored and tells me: "Thomas, could you go to the bathroom?" (to jerk off). Sometimes my penis gets soft while I am trying to make love to her, and she looks at me in despair: "Thomas ... what's happening to you?". Once she told me I am as passionate as a mollusc. I cannot satisfy her.
    But when I think of this watching at cuckold porn I get really excited and jerk off twice a day or more. Any similar experiences?

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  13. I'm a good-looking guy, former high school and college football player, with a small 4 inch dick. I've gotten off when girls have teased me a bit about my size, but nothing really serious, and definitely not into being cuckolded (I'm married to a gorgeous woman.)

    However, I have a strange fantasy which revolves around an experience in college. One of my teammates and I got into a wrestling match. We started grabbing each other's crotches. Eventually, he pinned me and then pulled down my pants. When he saw my dick (which is almost non-existent when soft), he started laughing and made comments like, "Shit, is that all you got? I had more when I was five. That little thing could never satisfy a chick."

    I'm completely straight, but fantasies along that line get me off. I've even met a couple guys (str8) through the internet for S&M type sessions along this line.

    Kinda weird, huh? Otherwise, my sex life is completely normal.

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  14. PS. I gave up these encounters when the last session where I was tied and bound got too rough, especially to my cock and balls. Although I suffered no permanent physical damage, I felt it was better to leave that behind as being potentially too dangerous.

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  16. I'm a #2, but I also don't really have a small penis. I just love the idea of sph and a woman laughing at me for not being big enough. However I've become deeply ashamed of having this fetish and find myself addicted to it. I've been trying but have yet to find a way to overcome it.

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  17. i think that most lildick bois start out as 1, then eventually become 2 and end up at 3. After years of SPH addiction i now love having a pindick, it gives me so much pleasure rubbing it to humiliation and IR porn and i love making Godddesses giggle at it

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  18. Definitely #2 for me. Have always had a small penis and as the years have passed it has got smaller and smaller.

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  19. I love small penis humiliation and consider myself a prime candidate to be cuckolded. I'd love to be compared to a large lover and would also be interested in letting my bi side out.

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  20. #2 here, I have been this way since I was a kid. I really wanted to be big!

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  21. i fall under the number 2 also. my Wife of 35 yrs and i both like the humilation, She like to give it, and i luv to get it. She is a hotwife, and i am Her cuck, i know my position, and we have discussed it very much over the years. Our understanding of the subject, and my lack of endowment have let us be a very close loving couple. Even if i hardly ever get to penetrate Her as when i attempt to, i usually release before i get in, and She gets off on the fact i do not get there. i also get a good relief from these types of orgasms as the humiliation factor just increases my arousal

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