Friday, June 19, 2009

To Tell or Not to Tell



This question keeps coming up in conversations with women who know what it is I specialize in: Is it ever OK to be honest and tell a man he has a small penis?

The answer depends on the man and the situation. In most cases, I always err on the side of honesty. Most men who have a small penis have already realized this fact. Those who a little shy about this fact may even ask up front if you think it's too small. "Too small" is of course calls for a subjective answer. You might think his penis is small, but not too small.

If this encounter is purely casual in nature and you aren't likely to ever sleep with this man again, I wouldn't stop you from just ignoring his short comings and just open your mind and body and enjoy the sex. But I think it is good and healthy in the long run for him to know exactly where he stacks up. Believe it or not, some men who possess very small erect penises have no idea they are small. The problem stems from the fact that when flaccid, their penis is a normal 3-4 inches. But when erect, they don't grow much at all. Most men, unless they are regular porn viewers, are only exposed to the flaccid penises of other men. If they "measure up" in this respect, they think they are normal. Remember that honesty should always come with compassion. Yes, their penis is small, but perhaps that doesn't matter to you, or maybe they are really good with other aspects of lovemaking.

If someone special to you possesses a small penis, it is always best to discuss this fact openly with other aspects of your love life. If you are in love, you should be able to discuss anything with your lover -- especially sex. And if you are both thinking the same thoughts about his penis anyway, it's best to just get it out in the open and deal with it.

37 comments:

  1. How does he measure up? There are more metrics other than the two numbers - girth and length. He can't change his size, not really, but he can improve his techniques, personality, commitment...

    That said, all men will always worry about their sizes. Coz they are - men.

    Kisses,
    -Hot Wife Amy

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  2. glad to see you post again....

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  3. I have a small penis (4.5") and I prefer honesty. I dates a woman once and she try to tell me that I was large, which may have been done out of kindness, but it left me feeling as if she thought I was vain or stupid.

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  4. I too am only 4 1/2 inches, and I prefer honesty also. My wife has begun being honest with me and will tell me that I am small or little during sex which happens to be an incredible turnon - and in a sense a relief since I no longer have to "pretend" to be large when I'm not or ever will be.

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  5. If I'm 6in in length and 4in in girth, how bad is that? I know it is thin, but is 4in too thin?

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  6. Jeez, I dunno. If I drop my pants and I hear "Holy hell, that's a pretty small dick ya go there" it might be a turn off. I mean, I'll still bang you like an old screen door, but I might feel bad like a few days later. What if we turned around when you took your shirt off and said "Hey, what's that between your boobs? Oh, it's you vagina". Not so nice, now is it.

    Ok..... enough jokes. All kidding aside, yes. Honesty is the best policy. Just uh.... do it tactfully please.

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  7. Great post. I'm only about 4.25in in length. I prefer honesty as well and I do get turned on when my wife tells me I'm small or little during sex.

    For Kathy..I live in San Francisco. How can I schedule an appointment with you?

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  8. I would like to chat with you i think you speak great truth and could help me and my fiance greatly please email me if you could at small_cock_stuart@yahoo.co.uk or im on yahoo messenger as small_cock_stuart i would be very greatfull for your help

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  9. Would love to get your comment on my most recent blog post where I discuss this very topic. I am amazed at some of the answers. Thank you!

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  10. Hi, i have a very small penis and it's relatively out of shape. Is there anyway i can contact you and seek for further enquiries on it?

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  11. I think the girl should express herself honestly when confronted with a partner's cock it would save a lot of time and slow motion heartbreak.

    If she enjoys putting down a guy with a small dick, she should take her pleasure. If the guy likes the humiliation it will be fun for both. If not, the guy can zip back up. . .

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  14. Hi

    First time on the site. I really relate to this. I know my girlfriend used to watch and watches lots of porn. I have seen her web history by accident a few times.

    Our sex life is really bad. I have a very small penis, only around 2.5 " fully hard. There is a lot of psycologhy involved since I try so bad to please her. This makes me tense and I have a huge problem with cumming quickly and staying fully hard.

    My erections are weaker and my confidence is getting worse. It is not unusual for me to cum within 10-15 seconds. I really have to struggle to last and take it very slowly.

    My girlfriend is very controlling and not satisfied at all. She is pushing me to try penis enlargment or see my doctor to investigate a possible micropenis.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Micropenis

    I dont want to try any of that, but at the same time I dont want to loose her. I suspect all the porn she watches does affect her. She wants more.

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  15. too bad there isn't any activity on this blog:(

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  16. My Wife often teases me about my smaller size (4 3/4" in length and thin) it turns me on and makes the little guy try harder. It also makes me try to perform better orally for her.
    She has kept me locked in a CB3000 the past 21 days.

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  18. I am only 4 inches when hard. I prefer honesty but my wife and I were married for 10 years before we spoke about my small penis. One day while we were having sex I told her that I wished my penis was bigger. I told her that I had a small penis. She then opened up and told me that my dick was small. I encourage her to humiliate my tiny dick.

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  19. Hi,

    How to deal with a smaller n softer penis due to advanced age ? Sigh, I missed the great sex we once had.

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  20. So my question is, when in the dating process is it appropriate to bring up the fact that I have a 3.5 inch penis? I certainly do not want to subject to first be raised the first time we are intimate? But there is no convenient time to talk about such things beforehand.

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  21. Lara Bingle is a slut.

    what a stupid shire whore bag!

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  22. An (ex_ girlfrend made sure she didn't only tell me that I've got a small penis but she let everybody else know when she shouted it out in public ''you've got a small c...''!! And I always thought it was on the big side because a chinese girlfriend always told me so, well compared to her former oriental boyfriends(I'm not oriental). Later on another girlfriend measured it at under five inches and went on to say her ideal size was ''8-9 inches!. No consolation there. But they all emjoyed it like hell. Two of them worshipped it - saying it was 'cute' and 'beautiful' and it was never out of of there hands or mouth or bringing them to multiple orgasms. Another one said it was 'absolutely perfect' for anal sex. Maybe large 'squidgy' balls and foreskin helped out.
    But those two girls had an effect and now I've become obsessed with men with small penises and women with small breasts and I'm aroused all of the time. Small is beautiful and I want women to worship my penis and at the same time tell me how its so small, that they dream about large ones during sex, and that they are are always looking for a guy with a large penis. But the truth at last explains why my penis was always slipping out, left too much slack in a condom, and always felt lost inside a women. Its worse because girls can see all of the large penises on the net and that is bound to make them hanker after them.

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  23. Hi Kathy - i came across your blog and love it. i am a married male and know i have a small penis. It is best to be up front, but my wife refuses to talk about it. If you ever have the chance, i would welcome the opportunity to ask you questions. Take care, jay (naturalguync70@yahoo.com)

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  24. Small penis or huge penis, after all, its the love that counts.

    Guys can always use their fingers or tongue to give her multiple orgasms, leaving them satisfied at the end of the day.

    But if a guy still blames himself for being small, then at the last resort, he may try natural penis enlargement instead.- enlargementsuccess.com

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  25. I think accepting what you have got is the answer.

    One site that has potential is www.dinkydick.com It really needs more members, especially female, to make it a great vehicle to discuss the issue and possibly to organise meet ups.

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  26. Depends. I'm a fairly good-looking guy, athletic, with a four incher. Overall I've done fairly well with the ladies. As long as it's not destructive, I get off on comments about my size. But each girl is different. My first wife (and first lover), loved to talk about her former boyfriends' cocks, and anything she heard from her girlfriends. One of the hottest affairs I had was with a younger chick who always teased me about my size. On the other hand, my current wife almost never mentions size, although when we were first going together she told me her previous boyfriend of two-and-a-half years was fairly well hung and great in bed. As I said, it all depends on how it's said.

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  27. i use my small penis to poke my girlfriend in the eye and she cums and loves it every time

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  28. Hi, I am a 51 year old who has a very tiny penis. Only 2 inches when fully erect. I have not had any sex in over 28 years, or so. I have become hung up on many fetishes involving Female supremacy, humiliation,foot love/worship, and I had even explored the world of Cuckolding. I know in my mind as a fact that I will never be able to please any Lady unless I use a dildo,and my tongue. it is twisted how I managed to adapt to liking these fetishes. Nothing in the world turns me on more, then seeing a pretty lady with a Man who is very big like 9 inches or, so. Then to see her shake, and quiver from the deep orgasms she experiences only sends the truth home to me.

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  30. I am 20 years old and have a dick that varies between 7-9 inches. i love watching small penis humiliation porn because it makes me feel supreme confidence, rightfully so. girls always tell me how relieved or shocked they were when they saw my size, and often let me know how much happier they are with it then their ex-boyfriends, who werent even less than 5 inches. Look guys the fact that you have a small penis, you have to realize you are doing a great great service to men everywhere by weeding yourselves out of the gene pool and allowing us to have more pleasurable and consistent seeexxxx, the greatest feeling in the world that one can experience, if they qualify. i feel very blessed and it helps me with everything, even if im playing basketball and im timid to score i just think "i def have a bigger dick than this guy" and i turn on my kobe bryant skillz. really there is no bigger weight off of the shoulders than knowing you will never be on the laughing side of the comparison. Thank you for the sacrifice i will always be happy.
    -C

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  31. My dick is extremely thin at about 4" girth and 5.25" long .I know that probably most women I have sex aren't going to get off with a skinny piece of equipment like mine . I know I should tell them first but then I won't even get the chance . I would rather they be upfront if its not big enough as i am not delusional about what a little dick it is .Both of my ex wives and several GFs left me for bigger dicked guys .

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  32. I DO NOT NEEDTO BE TOLD I HAVE A SMALL COCK I HAVE KNOWN ALL MY LIFE FROM BEING IN GYM SHOWERAND WHEN ALL US BOYS STARTED HAVING CIRCLE JERKS SO NO I DO NOT NEEDTO HEAR IT FROM A WOMEN I AM 3 INCHES LIMP BUT A FULL 6 INCHES LONG WITH A BONER AND ABOUT 5.5" GIRTH SO HARD I LOOK AVERAGE I AM UNCIRCUMCISED SO THAT MAKES MY LIMP COCK LOOK BIGGER AND I SHAVE MY SMALL BALLSACK CLEAN AND TRIM MY BUSH SHORT AND THAT MAKES ME LOOK BIGGER ALSO!

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  33. I think honesty is always best.

    I know I'm small, I what the women to acknowdge this and still want to be with me.

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  34. Does Kathy ever come back to this site?

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