Friday, December 14, 2012

Small Penis and Erection Issues




I would say 90% of the male clients I see have had trouble getting and maintaining erections on a regular basis.  There are a number of things that can cause this and some are physical, so my first task was to eliminate the physical causes, which would leave only the emotional/psychological.  And even here there can be many underlying causes, but if a man has a smaller than average sized penis, there's a good chance I can work with him to get his cock at full attention.

One client was a young, attractive, successful businessman.  He had a number of women who pursued him, but as powerful as he was in the world, he was utterly withdrawn in the bedroom.  His erect penis measured 3.5 inches in length and just a tad over 3 inches in girth (one of the smallest I had worked with).  When he was in high school, he had been humiliated by a girlfriend and she wasted no time in spreading the rumor of his underendowment. 

This deeply affected him and ruined his adult sex life.  When he came to me he had had a series of short relationships with women. The relationships ended in the bedroom -- not because of his size, but because of his utter fear of exposing himself.  He would never let them touch it, would never take it out of his underwear until he was fully erect.  But each time, instead of growing, it shrank even more. He said it was worse than what happens when it's cold.

In my office, I measure all my male clients, but I wasn't able to that first visit.  His penis retracted beneath his pubic hair so that all that was visible were his testicles.  It took several office visits where I had to dig deeper and get him to open up about his experiences before I was able to measure his penis.  He ejaculated just as I was measuring his girth.  He said it was the first time he'd ever been brought to orgasm by another person. 

He had a lot to overcome and sometimes just expressing it -- talking about it -- can make one accept tragic experiences and finally come to know that they are in the past. 

He finally met a woman he felt he could confide in.  After telling her everything, she took on the role of nurturing lover.  He said later it took about a week before he was confident enough to achieve a full erection and have a normal sex life with the woman who would become his wife.

If you have this problem, sometimes it's best to open up and communicate with a potential lover.  She should know ahead of time that you feel you have a small penis and this sometimes prevents you from achieving an erection.  If she laughs and breaks off the contact, then she wouldn't have been accepting of you or your penis in the first place.  But if she stays and takes on therole of a nurturing, understanding lover, then all you have to do is communicate, caress and touch.

She'll do the rest.

14 comments:

  1. The upfront honest approach to my underendowment and other sexual issues have generally recieved one of two responses from women. The first is an immediate withdrawal from the relationship. The second (and more common) is the assumption that I broken and need to be fixed somehow. The second is actually the worst since after endless attempts to "fix" me they finally figure out that they have to accept my shortcomings and instead of celebrating it and having fun they leave. As much as men need to accept themselves women who love men like this need to learn to accept and celebrate them for who they are not try to make them into something they are not. Just some thoughts to muddle over.

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  2. Hi Kathy,

    First, I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your blog - knowing that there are women out there who can accept the dilemma posed by a small penis and face it head on rather than trying to deny it exists has been a great comfort to me.

    Second, and please forgive me if I'm being too intrusive here, but I've realized over the past few months that I'm in somewhat desperate need of a service like the one you offered. I'm 22 years old and have a 4"(ish) erection. I've never successfully had sex with it, and very recently failed due essentially to the problem discussed in this article. Social anxiety disorder is also an issue for me, and I'm worried that when I finally get up the confidence to try again my partner's reaction might crush my confidence to a life-altering point. I know that you no longer work as a therapist, but is there anyone you might suggest I contact? I'm willing to invest a good deal in anyone who won't just tell me I don't have a micropenis and so have nothing to worry about. If you have any suggestions whatsoever, I'd really appreciate an email -- my address (if it isn't shown automatically) is mikeavecquatre@gmail.com.

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  3. Pls my prblm is same

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  5. I've never had any problem either with getting an erection or with premature ejaculation, but I have had to deal with presenting myself ill-equipped to deliver pleasure through vaginal penetrative intercourse. I have had to deal with anxiety and fear of rejection and exposure. However, I decided at an early age, when I began dating, that I would control my ejaculation and I can go for hours.

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  6. Hi Kathy,

    You mentioned that you're there for those with small penises, which are less than 4.5 inches in length, but I don't think you ever elaborated on how to properly measure the length. Thanks :)

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  7. I'll get really anxious about my small penis erection size (about 4") and often ejaculate as soon as a new lover touches it with just her fingers.
    I last longer after that, but I still feel badly about it.

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  8. Love my tiny penis... so cute and post it alot

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/110712291@N02/12317395703/

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  9. That photo is the stuff I dream of. I'm small like the guy and that girl is hot!

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  10. love small penis

    syl

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  11. I am a big fan of your blog - have you seen mine yet, it's under lovinsmallpenis.wordpress.com - We both love small penisses !

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